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7 Hard Truths I’ve Learned as a Beginning Blogger

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Last Updated on by Rebecca

So….raise your hand if you’re a beginning blogger.

Now, raise your hand if you didn’t realize being a beginning blogger would be so. freaking. hard.

Just me?

I confess: starting a blog hasn’t always been as much fun as I thought it would be.

I’d been studying blogging for over a year and I really thought I was ready to do it for real. So I finally pulled the trigger and bought a domain name and hosting.

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I’d already found success with freelancing. How hard could it be to start a blog and turn it into a booming online business?

Turns out, it’s A LOT harder than I thought.

I mean, I thought I knew everything there was to know.

Mom bloggers like Elna at Twins Mommy and Suzi at Start a Mom Blog were my go-to gurus for blogging tips and advice.

They made it look so easy. I was pretty confident that I’d be able to start a blog and build an audience fairly quickly.

Needless to say, I waayyy overestimated my abilities. 

After three months of blogging, I’d made a little progress but nowhere near what I expected.

And then I just got super-frustrated and quit.

I didn’t look at my blog for about six months. But I thought about it a lot.

So I decided to give it another try.

And I thought it might help you to share some of the things I’ve learned as a beginning blogger so you don’t end up getting frustrated and bailing like I did.

7 Lessons Every New Blogger Needs to Know

beginning mom blogger

1. Blogging takes time.

Blogging is really hard work.

There’s such a steep learning curve, or at least there has been

for me. I knew how to set up the basic framework for a WordPress blog and write blog posts. But I was (and sometimes still am) totally lost when it comes to the techie side of blogging.

Not to mention actually promoting your blog and getting traffic.

I’m still figuring out Pinterest and trying to build a presence on Twitter while also staying active in the many Facebook groups I’ve joined since starting a blog.

Can you say overwhelming?

As a beginning blogger, one of the most important things I’ve learned is this:

If you want the results that the big-time bloggers are getting, you’ve got to put in the time and effort those bloggers did when they were starting out.

Right now, that’s my biggest struggle.

Between running a successful business online already and raising two kids as a single mom, I’m stretched thin most days.

So the takeaway for you if you’re a beginning blogger?

Set realistic expectations early about how much time you can spend on it.

If it’s only an hour a day, then so be it. But commit to showing up for that hour every day and making the most of it. It may take you longer to get results but being consistent can eventually pay off.

2. You need a strategy.

What to do as a beginning blogger

Blogging without a plan is like taking a newborn on a road trip and leaving your diaper bag at home. If you’re not prepared, you’re going to end up with a big pile of crap on your hands.

I started out as a beginning blogger with no real strategy, other than setting up posts and messing around on Pinterest. And boy, what a huge mistake that turned out to be.

If you’re not sure how to focus as a beginning blogger, my best tip is to focus on two things and two things only to start — content and promotion.

There’s a fairly simple formula to follow:

  • Brainstorm post ideas that speak to your target audience
  • Outline, write, format and publish those posts
  • Get your posts in front of the people you want to read them

Looks easy, right? Eh…not exactly.

You have to give serious thought to what your target audience’s biggest pain points are and write content that solves their problems.

And it has to be engaging and provide clear takeaways, so they’re dying to come back and read the next thing you post.

But first you have to get them to your blog, which means having a plan for promoting your content and driving traffic.

People aren’t just going to show up out of thin air. Attracting your core audience starts with doing things like making connections with other bloggers, establishing your presence on social media and building up a following, being active in Facebook groups and making Pinterest your bestie for life or longer.

It all comes down to strategy and if you don’t have a clear outline for getting from A to B, you’re going to end up totally lost. (Like I was.)

3. Learning without doing is pointless.

a beginning blogger at work

The great thing about being a beginning blogger is that there’s sooo much information readily available to guide you every step of the way.

Want to master SEO?

There’s a course for that.

Need to grow your list?

There’s a course for that, too.

Plus tons of cheat sheets, checklists, workbooks, e-books, webinars, YouTube videos and blog posts about any and everything blog-related.

The bad thing about being a beginning blogger and having so many resources and tools is that it’s easy to get caught up in learning about blogging, without ever putting anything you learn into action.

And you have to do that if you want to make it past the beginning blogger stage.

But it’s hard, I know.

You think — I’ll just take one more course or sign up for one more masterclass and I’ll be ready to go. Only you never launch your blog or work on promoting it because you’re bogged down in learning.

I love learning about new things but at some point, you have to make the leap from learning to doing.

And just so you don’t put any more pressure on yourself than you already are, let me give you some advice: forget about it being perfect.

Do it ugly, do it scared, do it even when you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing.

Do it super slow, one step at a time.

But do something.

4. You have to run your own race.

One of the biggest obstacles to watch out for as a new mom blogger is worrying about what every other blogger on the block is doing.

You’re feeling pretty good about your progress then you notice that another blogger who launched two weeks ago already has 1,000 followers on Instagram. Meanwhile, you’ve got 30.

Or you read a blog post about a blogger who grew their page views to a gazillion views in a month, while you’re struggling to crack 100.

Then there are the bloggers who post income reports.

These reports are meant to be inspiring and most of the time, they are. But on days when my page views are measured in the single digits, the last thing I want to read about is how some other blogger is making $50,000 or $100,000 a month.

Comparisons are everywhere in the blogging world and you have to make a conscious decision to avoid them. Otherwise, you end up feeling like everything you do isn’t good enough and you’ll want to quit.

That doesn’t mean that you have to stop reading income reports or following your favorite bloggers.

It just means that you need to keep your eyes on your own paper and focus on doing you, instead of using someone else’s success as a measuring stick for your progress.

5. You’ll get some things wrong.

beginning blogger with a coffee cup

Perfectionism can be just as dangerous to you blogging success as comparisons.

Because trying to make it everything you do as a beginning blogger absolutely perfect is a HUGE waste of time.

Listen up: you’re guaranteed to make mistakes as a beginning blogger.

Some mistakes might be small, like publishing a post with a typo

or two. Others might be big, like setting up an automation to deliver your opt-in freebie to your email list…and forgetting to attach the file to the freebie. (That might have happened to me. 🙂 )

Mistakes are great, though, because every time you make one as a beginning blogger you learn something. The more you learn from mistakes, the more you grow as a blogger.

Getting things wrong can also help you find your way.

You might start off in one direction and think that’s going to be your path but find out that no one wants to read about what you’re writing about, or that lead magnet you spent hours and hours on gets zero clicks from would-be subscribers.

In the beginning, blogging is trial and error.

Some of what you do will stick and other stuff won’t. And that’s okay.

Experiment. Try new things. If something’s not working for you, ditch it. If something is working, then fine-tune it.

And if you make a mistake, learn what you can from it and move on.

6. No one will love what you do as much as you.

beginning blogger mistakes

You could have the greatest blog in the world, with millions of followers and hundreds of subscribers and be recognized as THE influencer in your niche, but you know what?

There’s always going to be someone who thinks you suck.

And in the beginning stages of blogging, you might be churning out what you think is the best stuff ever and getting unhelpful (or even hurtful) comments.

Or worse, your blog is greeted with nothing but silence.

It’s hard feeling like you’re creating something that’s awesome and no one appreciates it or notices it.

When you get hung up on who’s not loving your blog, remember what YOU love about it.

Remind yourself why you started a blog, what you want to achieve and who you want to help. And focus on finding your people and ignoring the naysayers.

That doesn’t mean you should tune out criticism completely, though. Constructive criticism can be helpful when you’re a beginning blogger.

I had several more experienced bloggers take a look at my blog and point out things that I had missed when I was getting started.

It may not be totally comfortable for you, but don’t be afraid to ask other bloggers for feedback.

And if you’re offered good advice, take it.

7. Blogging isn’t for everyone.

beginning blogger tips

The most important thing I’ve learned as a beginning blogger is that you have to treat blogging like a business, even if making money from it isn’t on your radar.

Building a blog as a business is all about time, effort and planning. You have to be prepared to not get the results you were expecting and bounce back ready to try something else.

And here’s the hardest truth of all: some beginning bloggers won’t make it.

It’s not because their blog niche is all wrong or their content sucks. It’s because they’re not approaching it like a business from the jump.

Here’s what building a business is really like, from my own experience:

  • It involves working a lot of hours and sometimes feeling like you’re getting nowhere.
  • You’re constantly in hustle mode; even in your sleep you’re dreaming about the next step you can take in your business.
  • The self-doubt factor is always there nagging at you, telling you to just give it up already.
  • It can take months (or even years) for the real money to start rolling in.

Once you get past all that hard stuff and get established, running a business feels like a cake walk compared to the early days.

It’s like having a baby; you forget the nine months of awfulness because you’re all caught up in that new baby glow.

Bottom line? If you want to gain real traction as a blogger, you have to be all in; you can’t do it halfway.

What Have You Learned as a New Mom Blogger?

Every beginning blogger’s experience is different and I’d love to hear what lessons you’ve learned along the way, or what challenges you’ve run into on your blogging journey so far. Hit me up in the comments and tell me about it!

And remember to share this post with another budding blog superstar if it helped you!


  1. I have learned that I cannot do it all in one day. I have also learned to focus, not get distracted by all of the other stuff, complete 2-3 tasks a day.
    Your words are so true, I am glad that I am not the only one!

    • It’s hard not to get distracted, there’s so much to do! I’m working on not trying to do it all either because I just can’t. Developing a schedule and limiting my to-do list to one or two things has helped because now I don’t feel so behind all the time!

  2. I so related to this post. Blogging demands total dedication and determination. I’ve learned in nearly 4 months of blogging to do the best you can with what you have. Key values to develop are patience, focus, and discipline. And as you said so well Run your own race.

    • Hi Poovanesh, I saw you wrote something similar recently on your blog. You’re totally right, you have to do the best you can with what you have. I’m sure I could be doing a lot better with my blog if I could spend 6 to 8 hours a day working on it like some bloggers do but that’s just not reality for me! So for now I’m just trying to take small steps and make them count. 🙂

  3. This is a great post. So true. Most days I feel like this and it’s great to know I’m not alone (my family haven’t got a clue what I’m doing or why I do it, they think I’m mad spending all evening on the computer writing a blog or pinning on Pinterest!). Thanks for sharing. It will get better! Won’t it? 🙂

    • Mel, I hope so! I didn’t do a single thing last week with my blog because I was just at my wit’s end with the tech aspect of it and I had to step away. I’ve created a schedule and I’m just trying to focus on adding new content and promoting it for now because the rest of it is just too overwhelming at this point. If I could spend hours on it every day I would but I’m already running a business (not to mention homeschooling and raising two kids solo) so I’m trying to be content with what I can do in the time that I have. That’s all we can do, right?

  4. This is all so true!! I blog because I love writing – but I recently thought I would dip my toe into monetization and I’m already so lost, I feel like I’m a beginner all over again! Blogging is such hard work and I don’t think most people ever realise!

    • It really is hard! You see these established bloggers and you think, “well looks easy enough, let me try that” and boy, is it a shocker to find out what really goes on behind the scenes, at least in the beginning to get your name out there.

  5. Totally agree with everything you said here! I definitely did myself a disservice in the beginning by signing up for every free course, tutorial and toolkit out there — and then feeling massively overwhelmed. Don’t get me wrong, most of them were super valuable … but I should’ve gone through them each one at a time, instead of having a mountain of printouts sitting on my kitchen table, gathering dust, for literally months!

    Also very much agree with the “running your own race” statement. Sometimes it’s downright depressing to see those income reports from other bloggers. It makes you wonder if you’re doing something totally wrong. But then we have to remember — there truly is no wrong way to blog. Everyone’s journey is different. Everyone’s story is unique. We all just need to keep moving forward! Anyway, thanks for sharing!! <3

    • Diana, I did more or less the same thing — signed up for courses and webinars, downloaded checklists and worksheets, watched videos and basically just drowned in information. I recently decided to unsubscribe from some of the lists I was on because it was distracting (and sometimes depressing) to see my inbox fill up with income reports, product launch emails and all this other stuff while I barely had time to focus on my own blog. So now I’m taking it slow and doing what I can at my own pace and being satisfied with moving forward — even if it’s just baby steps — every day.

    • Same here ladies. Diane I love what you say here. Everyone’s journey is different and lightbulb – it has taken many of the big name bloggers YEARS and a second blog to gain the success they have. Definitely the two listed in this blog, both of these ladies have said more than once that their beloved traffic blog about blogger is not their first blog. Therefore years are involved here. I think it’s total reality for some to have some wins early on but definitely not everyone, and has it really been their first try at it – not many actually tell about what they did/tried/learned and how long it took before they actually launched with 10k views in the 2nd month.

      • It’s hard to stay motivated when it seems like everyone else is doing sooo much better than you are. I sometimes feel crazy for even trying it. I already have a successful business and it took time to build it up but looking back, it seems like blogging is so much harder.

  6. I’m new to blogging as well, and it sure is a steep learning curve! I’ve made plenty of mistakes and also trying to get a lead magnet that will drive traffic.

    • That’s where I’m at too! I’m struggling to pick a lead magnet idea and I haven’t had enough traffic yet to learn what people really want. It’s a catch-22!

  7. I have learned to stay in my lane. Early on, I was super focused on doing all the things. I wanted to make sure that every single post had a content upgrade, and an affiliate link, and 5 pinnable images. Because that what someone else was doing and they were successful…

    It’s just too much and it was distracting me from my goal, which was to help moms. So, now, I focus on that. Helping moms. I haven’t added a “freebie” to any of my recent posts and people are still subscribing at the same rates.

    Great post. I do believe that anyone who wants to can do it, but it is a lot of work.

    • You’re absolutely right, Jenny. And all those things you mention there are the same things I feel like I need to be doing to get people to my blog but none of it will matter if my content isn’t helping people. So that’s what I’m focusing on for now — writing posts that are useful and helpful. 🙂

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